You come first


As moms it’s only natural for us to put the needs of our children, our spouse, our pets, our jobs, E.V.E.R.Y.T.H.I.N.G. before the needs of ourselves.

I’m here to tell you that it’s OKAY to take time for yourself. You need it. You deserve it. It will make you a better parent, a better wife. Trust me.

Perhaps you don’t need to do what I did and lose a bunch of weight and basically change your entire life and that of your family. Perhaps your “me time” is a bubble bath, a glass of wine, and a good book. Whatever it is, find it, embrace it, and enjoy it. And whatever you do, DON’T feel guilty about it.

If taking time for you is something that is new to your family dynamic, you might want to have a sit-down conversation with your significant other and tell them what you are going to need. They aren’t mind readers, but I guarantee that they want to see you happy. They know that THEIR happiness rests on YOUR happiness. And if they don’t know that, they should by the end of your conversation. I had to have this conversation with my family. And every now and again we revisit the topic. Wink

Having children and a spouse/significant other doesn’t mean that you should have to give up on any of your own dreams. You just need to figure out a way to make it all work. And if you want it bad enough, you can make it happen.

I take time for myself every day; 90 minutes of exercise There are times when my husband can’t be home to help me with the children, so I bring them to CrossFit En Fuego with me (where they participate in CrossFit Kids) or we go on a family run or bike ride. Taking time for me doesn’t mean that it has to be alone time! Or if mom duty really calls and I have a child that needs to stay home from school because of illness, I pop in an exercise DVD (Les Mills Body Pump) for 60 minutes and then do quick 25 minute circuit routine that I developed. And my kids watch me. They love to watch me. They cheer me on, they sing the songs along with the DVD. It’s became a way of life for us. I’m a better wife and mom because I take care of me. If I don't take care of myself, no one else will. It's all up to me. My health rests on my shoulders.

Do you take time just for you? How often? What do you do??



Comments (5) -

  • I believe everyone deserves me time!!!  I take it daily. Whether its at the gym, a walk, yoga, or taking a nap. It's MY time. And I feel no guilt over it.
  • You're right, everyone needs time for yourself.  I start to go crazy after a few days of not being alone for a little while.  It doesn't make you selfish or a bad mom, it makes you human.  
  • I only take advantage when all 3 kids are napping. Which is rare as I have an almost 5 yr old and almost 4 month old twins.
    When they do I feel like celebrating, lol! But I did have a nice bath one night after they were all put to bed. Moms happiness is important. Not only for us but happy mom/wife, happy life, right?!
  • Everyone deserves me time. Working on my blog is my me time. Taking a shower uninterrupted is also my me time.
  • What a timely blog post for me!  My husband and I just decided to allow our children to enroll in public school this year. We have homeschooled up until now.  But I desperately needed to work on me and I just couldn't do it with my children around me 24/7.  I love my children with all my heart, but I need to lose some significant weight and work on some mental stuff from my background.  

    I want to be the best mom I can be and its okay to work on meSmile
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