3. December 2013 15:37
Since the topic isn't going away, let's talk about it. And for those of you who are new to my blog keep this in mind. I LOST OVER 200 pounds. I have walked in both pairs of shoes.
I feel that there is a very real difference between fit pride and fat shaming. A HUGE difference.
We've got to look just past the BMI or number on the scale. WE HAVE TOO! The government tells me that I'm overweight by 10 pounds but I am STRONGER, FITTER, FASTER (on my bike and in the water...running, not so much) and in the BEST SHAPE OF MY LIFE. But because of how those numbers sewed in my clothing and reflected on the scale make me feel, I am compelled to try to get those 10 pounds off.
No matter how hard I work out, no matter how much I deprive my body of food, I will NEVER look like Maria Kang, (she's the What's Your Excuse mom) that's not in my genetics. I'm tallish, German/Scottish descent, I'm broad shouldered, and I can dead lift a butt load of weight. Probably more than she can
But this isn't a competition on who is the fittest "real woman" in our society. Shouldn't the goal be to EMPOWER all women to find their own path to a healthier lifestyle? And more importantly to EMPOWER and TEACH our daughters that there is so much more to life than a number on the scale or the size of your clothing.
Yes, there comes a point where being overweight takes a very wrong turn. I've been down that road. It's a dead end. Turn around, go back to the fork, and choose the other lane.
I appreciate that women like Maria have a message that they are trying to get out. That it's okay to love your fit body. But don't be condescending about it. You are you. I am me. I don't want to be you. You don't want to be me.
I also appreciate that women like Curvy Girl Lingerie are trying to get women to embrace their curves. You must LOVE yourself before you can commit to making a change for the better.
I get that it can be hard to love yourself when you look in the mirror and you don't like what is staring back at you. I've been there. It's hard, and often times, even today, I see 369 pound Jenny staring back at me, and I just want to give her a hug and tell her that I love her. That she's good enough. That she has three little people who look at her for guidance, and two of those little people are girls that will follow her lead, and she must teach them well.
There is a very fine line we are walking right now in our society. People are afraid to say what they think or feel for fear of being called a bully. But I think we do need to talk about it. We do need to talk about the choices our society is making when it comes to food and exercise. When moms are being fined for not sending grains to school with their child, but the grains being provided are Ritz crackers Where we allow our children to spend too much time in front of the TV or computer and then complain about PE being cut in the school day. PE being cut from school day hurts ALL our children, but mainly it hurts those children that don't get any other exercise when they get home, and eat Ritz crackers for snack.
It's a vicious cycle and it needs to STOP!
I'm proud of the work that I do to be fit. But that doesn't mean that I shame or bully anyone who is not as fit as me. It's NOT A COMPETITION against anyone but myself.On the flip side I work out with dozens of women who are much fitter than me. Do they shame me? NO. NEVER. They empower me.